Essential Relationships That Single Parents Need

July 6, 2025

There’s nothing quite like the loneliness that sets in after a major loss—whether it’s a divorce, the death of a spouse, or simply the weight of doing life without a partner. For solo parents, connection doesn’t come easily. We may crave support but feel too exhausted to pursue it. We may long for friendship but have no idea where to begin. Our time is stretched thin, our hearts are guarded, and yet, we were never meant to do this alone.

In this conversation with Amber Fuller, a counselor with a Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy (MMFT), we talk honestly about what it takes to rebuild meaningful connection when life has unraveled. Whether you’re navigating grief, working through trust issues, or unsure of where to start, this episode offers real hope and practical direction.

We explore the emotional and logistical pain points that keep many solo parents stuck: the ache of isolation, the fear of vulnerability, and the struggle to find people who feel safe, present, and consistent.

Key Insights from This Episode

Different people meet different needs, and that’s a good thing.
Deep connection doesn’t just happen…it’s built with intention.

As Amber shared, “I think we just need to recognize that different people add different value.” In her own life, her younger sister plays the role of emotional anchor, while other siblings and friends bring spiritual encouragement, practical help, or just fun.

Robert reflected on how, after leaving the music industry, he realized how few of his former relationships could actually support him in his new season. “The further I got into being a single parent, the more I realized how superficial that initial circle was.”

Elizabeth noted that grief can push us to isolate, but also holds potential to create new bonds. “I saw a quote: ‘Grief is love with nowhere to go.’ And maybe it’s true. When we begin to offer that love to others again, to our new community, we create space for healing.”

Some of the most meaningful relationships don’t start deep. Amber talked about joining a local hiking group of total strangers: “It was outside my comfort zone, but I went home so pumped up. I made 10 new friends just by saying yes.”

Elizabeth emphasized the value of even casual interactions. “We underestimate acquaintances. But saying hi to a cashier or chatting at school pickup…it helps with loneliness, too.”

And when trust grows? That outer circle can move inward. “There are people who started as casual connections and now they’re part of my inner circle,” Elizabeth said. “Learning to build gradually taught me what healthy friendship looks like.”

Part of growing a healthy support system is being willing to take inventory. Who helps you feel safe and grounded? Who leaves you feeling judged or small?

Amber put it this way: “We become like the people we spend the most time with.” She shared about letting go of a few friendships that no longer aligned with where she was headed. Not out of anger but out of clarity.

Elizabeth echoed that, recounting a moment at the pool with friends who spent most of their time gossiping. “It didn’t feel good. It made me wonder, do I really feel safe showing up as myself around them?”

Letting go makes room. As Amber said, “Some friendships need to be diminished so we can invest more in ones that are life-giving.”

Listener Question: “What are some of your go-to summer meals when you’re short on energy, watching your budget, too hot to turn on the oven—but don’t want mac and cheese again?”

Amber: “Tomato, cucumber, and feta salad. I make a big batch and eat it all week. I also love the air fryer—chopped chicken, potatoes, carrots. Easy and doesn’t heat up the kitchen.”

Robert: “Grilling is my go-to. But also? Anything you can wrap in a tortilla. I’m serious. Whatever leftovers you’ve got—wrap it up and call it dinner.”

Elizabeth: “Honestly? Takeout and watermelon. And if I’m feeling fancy, maybe some feta on the watermelon. That’s summer for me.”