Solo Parent Podcast
This week we’re discussing How to Keep Control from Destroying Your Peace.
Solo parenting puts you in a position where so much is genuinely outside your control. The other household. The court dates. How your kids are processing things you cannot fully see. And when that much is out of your hands, it is completely natural to tighten your grip on everything else. The schedule. The way the kitchen looks. The outcome of a conversation you have already rehearsed a dozen times. It feels like stability. It feels like you are doing something. But over time, that kind of control does not actually bring peace. It borrows against it.
That tension is exactly what this conversation digs into. Robert Beeson, Founder and CEO of Solo Parent, Elizabeth Cole, single parent, and Amber Fuller, a counselor with a Master’s in Marriage and Family Therapy (MMFT) and single parent, sit down to work through what is really driving the urge to control, why letting go is not the same thing as giving up, and what it looks like in real life to hold things a little more loosely without losing yourself in the process. It is one of those conversations that has a way of naming things you have been feeling but have not quite had the words for.
Key Insights from This Episode:
- Control is often a counterfeit for peace. It mimics stability but quietly works against the peace you are actually looking for.
- Letting go is not the same as giving up. The shift is from gripping tightly to holding loosely enough to stay present and adapt.
- “What if” lives in the future; “if only” lives in the past. Real agency only exists in the present, in the one next right step.
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